Today I turn 33. I cut my own hair in parking lots with kitchen scissors, and then ask my friend or my Someone to help clean up the mess I made of my head. I am closer to shaving my head completely, and realized last week that if I don’t do it, it would be a lifetime regret on my deathbed. I think about dying less, but of my deathbed more. I hope it has soft sheets and good lighting. In the last year, I’ve unraveled half a lifetime’s worth of shame, and the tremors of it are still frequent, but fading. I am dissatisfied with most of my wardrobe, but happier in my skin, so I don’t care as much that I am dissatisfied with my wardrobe. I miss how sensitive I was when I was a kid, back when everyone told me I was too sensitive, and I am scraping callouses to get back to it. This means that I spend more time doing nothing, wondering if trees transmit messages telepathically, and chewing my food more slowly. I eat less sugar and drink less alcohol, but not from my enormous restraint and self discipline. I just kind of forgot. I’ve given up on having a stringent schedule, and have somehow become more productive, anyway. I still love spicy foods, but now they make it hurt when I pee. I think less of the life I want to live and more of the life I am living. I am keenly aware that my frustration with my new dog is often in direct correlation with my frustration with myself. My favorite colors are still yellow and brown. I’m learning how to bind books. I think about where I belong almost every day, and have no answer. I am starting to believe that I’ve never belonged anywhere. I’m not tired all the time, anymore. I prefer chocolate chunks to chocolate chips because chips are for babies and I am a grown up now. Also, chunks taste better. I use the words “generous” and “grateful” more, but not in a Zenny yoga lady kind of way, even though I’m a lady who does yoga all the time. I think frogs wearing hats are hilarious. I am less afraid of snakes. I don’t think snakes wearing hats are hilarious, but maybe they are less scary. I managed to restrain from making any 33-year-old Jesus martyr jokes for this post. But all the jokes I thought of were so funny. I guess maybe 33 isn’t a step in the right direction, but a step in a direction, and that’s good enough for me.